By Tui Cordemans
A few months ago, I overheard two entrepreneurs discussing holidays. One of them said to the other, “Didn’t you just have a holiday, you always seem to be on holiday. I can’t remember when I was last on holiday.” The other one responded by saying, “That is why you are more successful than me, mate.”
I couldn't help but intervene. I laughed and asked, 'Isn't having a life where you always feel as if you are on holiday a sign of great success?” They both stared at me and then laughed as if to say 'good point'… it made complete sense to me!
We live in a world where we are constantly busy, where we are bombarded with ideas of what represents a successful life. There seems to be a stigma attached to the notion that if you own more things, do more stuff (busy), make more money and be more of yourself, you will be happier. Says who?
I read that rather than constantly chasing something like success, we should just allow ourselves ‘to be’ and to go with the flow, in tune with nature. Is that even possible when you own a business?
As business owners, most of us would struggle with this concept. In fact, of all the people on the planet, we are the people who need it the most. The need to control everything often leaves us totally stressed. Our left brain thinks that we can control our destiny; the concept that the universe is actually guiding and protecting us seems impossible - bah! What universe?
Entrepreneurs and business owners are rushing, pushing, pulling, chasing, controlling, and stressing to reach a never-ending goal, often at the cost of their physical, mental and spiritual health. We may even become alienated from family and friends. We are often not living by our highest values. These are some of the concerns that Entrepreneurs’ Organization endeavours to help its members through its various programs, such as the Forum.
Being grateful for what you have achieved and enjoying the journey of life is really important. The best thing about this strategy is “The more you are grateful for what you have, the more you will get of that for which you are grateful for.” To me, this implies that being mindful and grateful will bring us more 'success' (or the feeling of it) than being constantly stressed and feeling as if we are not good enough.
Recently, I have been working on connecting with the universe. This involves sitting every night at my shrine and offering gratitude for everything that ‘is.’ I acknowledge that I am not alone - that no matter what risk I take or decision I make, the universe has my back, and is guiding me. Letting go of fear and the need to control dissolves the stress. Rather than becoming frazzled thinking we have all the answers, we can trust in the universe to guide us (or God, Buddha or whoever your guide might be).
I am practising letting go and accepting what ‘is’ - connecting to my life and business vision. I am working on enjoying the journey of life, rather than waiting for something to be achieved. This way, when I do work, I am working on things I feel inspired about, things that help me live my vision right now.
By embracing hope and faith, one can live a peaceful life. Constantly setting goals creates a mindset that you must achieve something to feel fulfilled. The key is to gently hold onto your goals, and visions and to surrender them to the universe. You know you have surrendered when you trust in the wisdom of the universe.
What is your life vision? What is your idea of success? Do you know what your values are and are you aligned to them? Are you feeling happy, relaxed and inspired every day? Do you have fun? Are you leading from a place of love or fear?
I encourage every business owner and entrepreneur to take a day out to just sit and visualise what your ideal life would look like. How would you feel? How would you behave, and who would you have around you? I believe that we all want the same thing, we all want the feeling of love in our lives. If we are not feeling this right now, then surely this should be the priority? When we have the feeling of love around us, everything else just seems to fall into place.
About the author: Tui Cordemans is the Co-founder and Creative Director of Koh Living. She is also a member of EO Melbourne.